Are you longing to live a larger, more authentic, fulfilling and joyful life? Do you feel stuck in aspects of your life? Are you feeling sad, angry, confused, or worried most of the time? Do you feel alone and disconnected or wish you could connect better with yourself and with the important people in your life? Are you curious and excited to grow?
"We fulfill ourselves only by surpassing ourselves." —David Richo
I am a strength-based, attachment-oriented, Emotionally-Focused therapist who integrates somatic, interpersonal/relational, and mindfulness approaches into each therapy session. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is an affirming and supportive approach to helping you out of “stuck” places. With EFT, I help you to connect with your emotions and underlying needs so that you can change your habitual patterns of relating and feel more secure, confident, and connected. As a psychotherapist, I serve as a guide to help you to elicit your own insights into your current challenges and to find the most effective tools for you. I help you to recognize and grow your strengths while helping you to hold your challenges with understanding. I am honest and direct yet gentle and patient in my approach to helping you touch deeper into who you are and the potential of who you can become which, among many things, is serene and sovereign.
“It is in relationship that we are wounded. It is through relationship that we are healed.” — Harville Hendrix
When we give our hearts to another in a committed relationship, we are not only investing our hopes and dreams in the other but we are also bringing our deepest relational wounds from our past into the present. We can view the challenges that inevitably arise in relationships as either a problem or a possibility. Seeing our challenges as potential for growth brings with it great rewards.
With Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy, you and your partner can begin to heal one another of the wounds you carry and to realize the potential you each have for the capacity to love deeply. The journey through couples counseling can help you move beyond arguments and feel good about yourself and your relationship again. You will discover how to communicate with your partner in order to get their attention, feel understood, and elicit compassion and caring. Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy can help defuse tension in your relationship as you begin to relax and respond tenderly towards each other. My goal is to help you and your partner achieve an experiential shift from fighting and defensive positions to relating in ways that foster greater trust, warmth, safety and openness in your relationship.
“When we become truly transparent, we see the world clearly and we let the world see into us.” — Joan Halifax
We all wish to be seen, heard, and supported and many, if not most, of us are not. Instead we spend most of our moments suffering alone, disconnected and afraid. When we gather with others in a safe, inclusive space, we find that the solution to isolation and fear is found in allowing others to see us as we are and to hear what we have to say. When we dare to reveal our true selves while sitting with others, dare to be honest, dare to face and embrace what we have previously rejected inside, we discover a profound sense of connection and the deep relief that comes from being seen, understood, and finally able to rest.
SELF-IDENTITY: Who am I and What do I want?
Time: 10 to 12 noon
Location: 224 NE 65 Street in Greenlake
“I feel within me a consuming fire of heavenly love which has burned up in my soul everything that was contrary to itself and transformed me inwardly into its own nature.” — William Law
At different phases of our lives, we are confronted with questions of self-identity: who am I and what do I want in this stage of my life?
The work of Self-Identity and Self-Discovery begins with understanding who we are, what makes us unique, what strengthens us and makes us whole. At the same time, where are we challenged and what is calling us to be healed? In this process, we come closer to knowing what it is we want in what Mary Oliver calls our "one wild and precious life."
What are our greatest hopes and longings, how can we access them, and what gets in the way of our fulfilling them?
We will gather to explore these important questions and participate in collective healing in a supportive, reflective community. Through group discussion and experiential exercises, we will come to discover and recover who we are as individuals and who we are in relationship to others.